Its a beautiful weather here in Bangalore :) I swear, I have been craving for this. So cold, so chilly aaah! I am relishing a hot mug of Maggi ^_^ Finally, pampering myself. The madness of the 'tragedy' (hah!) hadn't let me unwind >.< I Fi.Nah.Ly. am :D Oiled my hair (yumm almond oil!), removed ALL the traces of chipped nail polish, put on a lot of moisturizer and catching up with blogs :) Sitting by the window, the breeze,
with nothing letting nothing bog me :) Life is bliss :)
With the calm intro, let me get into today's topic. I have dealt with a face of this topic before, let me dwell into the core of it.
PS: I will be sharing my views ONLY pertaining to 'supposedly over weight'-ism, where you hate your body on daily basis. Skinny people who are healthy, no offence intended. I equally respect your views. I might come across as 'rude' at some places, but I am just making an attempt to put across my views in a better way. Lets not create a dispute over that! :)
Getting back on track, I have been wanting to write on this topic from days, but never got the time to collect proper photos after Google-ing and all :)
Well, every time you pass huge glass windows,doors, car shields for that matter, what do you do? Except from finger-setting your hair and checking out the fade-o-meter of that lipstick?
How many of you are battling fat? How many of you consider yourself 'over weight'? Skip meals? Intake substitutes? Laxatives? How many of you say NO to the cheesecake because you are on a diet, quite for eternity?
All of you that said 'ME!', are you doing all these to really lose the unhealthy weight, or to fit into the bill of 'healthy weight range'?
I have this annoying friend. Yes. Annoying it is. She is tall and fit. Nothing near to petite. She has a toned body. Yet, she is bulky. She is not 'dainty' and 'delicate', in her words. Why, for the Love of God do you want to be DAINTY, lady? She hates her body, sweats her ass off in the gym, doesn't even look at junk (she doesn't get cravings or what, Lord knows) and is eternally complaining about her body. "Aahh my arms are so flabby!" "I can never fit into that S size dress". Yes, you can't because you are not an S. You are an M. Or L. Or XL. Or XXL. Or free size. As long as you are healthy and NOT obese, its OK.
Finding your own reflection in her? Read on.
Recently, I read on a website which was focusing on the corporate world's part in this mad run for 'fitness'. Boy! It is absolutely true.
Why are we even listening to some brand, some company on how we should look? What we should wear? What size we should be? How many inches the bust should measure? What is fat-ass? Why?
Remember when you were a kid, you were never called fat. You were called chubby. 'Golu' was out of sheer affection. (Non-Hindi-ians, golu = chubby, fat in an adorable way)
And now, you are 'fat'? Why don't we send all the kids to gym? Lets deny them chocolates and pastries. Who wants to see them smear their cutey mouths with chocolate syrup? Why don't we put them on diet?
Hearless much? No. If this is heartless, then you are heartless too. You NEVER do such things to a baby because you love her.
And will post such rules on yourself and follow them up to the point where you become a perfectionist. Why? Because, you don't love yourself.
No. Make-up hauls, shopping hauls and treating to a spa once in a while is not loving yourself. Its just a Refresh button for your system. Its like giving a small break before you get on to the daily I Hate You campaign again.
So you say, what do I do now?
1. Love yourself.
Its not something you can achieve overnight. You can't do it in one go. Infact, I don't love myself 100%.
Start with baby steps.
Love your body. Yes. Now. Why?
So what if you are not a size zero?
She is a 'plus' size model. Smokin' hot.
She has curves. Real curves.
Stop criticizing yourself day in and day out. If you are healthy, have stamina, and a figure to kill for, why the mad rush?
Workout, for a toned body. Not to lose that 'fat'. That 'fat' is what gives you your curves.
Real men go for meat, dogs go for bones.
That is sexy. Fuckin' sexy.
Your measurements should not judge your body. Don't let anyone fool you into thinking that not being a specific size is not being gorgeous.
Women come in different sizes and shapes.
Love what you are in.
Because, you are one of the women who create the different sizes and shapes.
You might mighty please your boyfriend, potential husband or whomever you are trying to impress, but at the end of the day, if you don't love yourself, no one will love you. Period.
The more you love yourself and accept every thing about you, the more you'll feel good. Would you want to be with someone who constantly nags you? Criticizes you? No, right?
Then be your own best friend. Love the way you are.
Give a try today and feel the goodness! You'll love it :)
I swear by this! :)
PS: The post got a lil picture heavy. I found these pictures expressing exactly what I wanted to. All the images have been Google-d. I don't claim any ownership.
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